What Is the Inner Child and Why Does It Matter?
The Inner Child is the part of us that carries our early emotions, memories, and unmet needs. It’s that younger version of you who may have felt vulnerable — hurt, ignored, ashamed, guilty, not fully accepted, and a lot more — and even as adults, those old feelings can still affect us today — it can show up as self-doubt, being too hard on ourselves, fear of failure, perfectionism, constantly putting things off or any other patterns that often come from trying to protect ourselves from pain or discomfort we once felt.
Inner Child healing helps us reconnect with these hidden younger parts of you to nurture and integrate them. It’s about listening, understanding, and offering the love and care you may have needed back then. As you do that, old habits begin to shift, and you start feeling more whole, more free, and more you.
"The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are." ~ Carl Jung
The Little Girl Within
I was doing all the “right” things — working hard, being responsible, ticking off my task lists to feel that sense of achievement. On the outside, things looked fine. But inside, I often felt like I was walking around with a knot in my chest. No matter how much I did, it never felt like enough. And I couldn’t understand why I kept falling into the same patterns — perfectionism, over-giving, burnout, procrastination, and guilt.
It wasn’t until I started working with inner child healing practices that I began to see the real roots.
I remember the first time I worked with my inner child was during one of the workshops: we were guided to connect with our younger self. I closed my eyes and saw this little version of me — younger self who was feeling scared, trying to fit in, wanting to do everything perfect so she wouldn't upset anyone. In that moment, it was like a flood gate of emotions had opened.
When we were asked to write a letter to our younger selves, I didn’t know where to begin. It felt awkward… and honestly, I was scared to face whatever might come up. But once I started writing, it all came pouring out. I cried. A lot. There was sadness I didn’t even know I’d been carrying. Shame for things that weren’t my fault. Guilt for not being “good enough.” Things that I had never spoken about — It was intense, but also strangely freeing. It felt like I had finally let that part of me be seen and heard.
Unlearning to Please, Perfect, and Perform
I began to understand that so many of my adult behaviours were just my inner child trying to stay safe. The perfectionism? That was me trying to avoid making mistakes. The procrastination? A fear of failure dressed up as laziness. The people-pleasing? A deep longing to be liked and not left behind.
Louise’s affirmations became a lifeline during that time:
- “I am willing to release the need to be perfect.”
- “I lovingly support my inner child.”
- “I forgive myself and I set myself free.”
These aren’t magic spells. It meant learning to care for the parts of me that were still hurting. It meant replacing shame with understanding, guilt with gentleness, and fear with love. They reminded me to speak kindly to myself — especially when old habits showed up. And that changed everything.
"The 'child' is all that is abandoned and exposed and at the same time divinely powerful; the insignificantly dubious beginning, and the triumphal end. The "eternal child" in man is an indescribable experience, an incongruity, a handicap, and a divine prerogative; an imponderable that determines the ultimate worth or worthlessness of a personality." ~ Carl Jung
Are You Ready To Embrace Your Inner Child's Wisdom?
Reconnect
Your inner child holds the key to unlocking freedom from self-imposed limits. By gently reconnecting with this part of yourself, you can transform your life from stuck to thriving.
Release
Inspired by Louise Hay's work, this healing journey invites you to nurture your inner child with kindness, breaking through what your have kept deep hidden into layers of your lives.
Rise
Learn to speak to your inner child with love, release the need for patterns that keep you protected on the surface but limit you on the inside, and watch how your life unfolds with greater ease, joy, and authenticity.
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